Monday, October 31, 2011

Why do men... Round Three!

It's Monday, kids! Do you know what that means? That's right... you're probably at work. The weekend is over. tonight you will likely be visited by ghosts, goblins, serial killers, and slutty punk rock princesses. BUT.... today you can be over at Wag Vs. Angie for Round Three!



This week's topic:

Why do men do douche bag things and still try to get in a woman’s pants?


I said: I am so glad we’re covering this topic. I have often ended up with douche bags and wondered why. Now since I’m not a guy, I have to get my data elsewhere. Did anyone ever catch that show The Pickup Artist? The whole premise of the show was to teach men how to pick up women. What I took away from it was, “See how I am a douche bag? Chicks dig it. Now you try.” Read more!

Want to see what Wag has to say? Me either... JUST KIDDING! Read his version here. 


14 comments:

wagthedad said...

I won. I won. I won.

To be fair, there are some men who do the same thing. I'm not saying just as many men, though -- this whole "fall for the douche bag when everybody else KNOWS he's a douche bag" kind of thing is a woman's affliction 99% of the time.

But I do have a few friends who always seem to attract crazy. Even the ones who seem normal the first few months (or years even) turn crazy in the end. I've often wondered about these friends: are they doing it to the women? Do the women turn normal because of THEM?

Then I realize it's just not fair to the men, because if a woman dates a douche bag then nobody would ever blame HER for the guy being a douche bag in the first place. Just for her bad judgment...

Angie said...

You can't really say I won I won. It was my question! LOL You do win just because you answered first. There you go.

I do think there are some people who DO turn another person into a psycho. Maybe not a douche bag, but crazy is a different story. I believe after dealing long term with someone who is mentally trying, abusive, etc. there is a good chance that it will drive a sane person to the brink.

I find it hard to believe you don't have any male friends that are married to a complete b*tch and you can't figure out why. It's the same thing.

Anonymous said...

Gotta say...my experiences fully support that his answer was dead on.

Jaime said...

Why? Because it works... And I don't blame women for falling for it til they are in their mid-20s or so.. We can't help ourselves. Beyond that if you're still falling for douchebags and you don't know why... You're an idiot and you need to rethink what you're looking for.. And look into yourself and what is it about these guys you like. If you end up with a douchecanoe for a husband, you have only yourself to blame.

ipenka said...

I think guys resort to it because it is an alternative source of confidence.

Real Confidence (Real nice guy or Real douche)>Fake Confidence (Pick up-douche)> No Confidence (Nice guy)

Not sure if that makes sense but that's my two cents.

Angie said...

All very good points, folks. I found the easiest way to avoid falling for it was to avoid dating altogether. I feel like I've been in a holding pattern for a long enough time to re-enter that world again and with a whole new respect for myself. I can only hope that I've done enough to help my own daughter understand that she deserves to be treated well. I hope too that my son will continue to be respectful of women even if it isnt always the easiest way to make SOME girls like him.

Jennifer Fabulous said...

That is SO true! It always frustrates me when my friends obsess over the "bad boy" (aka mega-douche). Ughhhh. So many girls get turned on by assholes. :S

RCB said...

The only Pickup Artist that I know is a movie from a long, long time ago... as in, what, 1986 or so. I think many guys do douche bag things because it's something a lot of women secretly expect them to do. I KNOW they didn't learn it from their momma. But I've never done douche bag things myself, so I guess I'm shit out of luck in the women department. (Pardon my Spanish, Angie.) But let me ask you this - how come you ended up with douche bags? I mean, you're a smart girl... so how come?

Angie said...

Jennifer,
It defies explanation after awhile doesn't it?

RCB,
I don't have a huge dating history actually. I've been in 4 actual relationships. There IS a chance that I'm that bitch that turns men into douche bags! :) Honestly, I was only too happy to believe that they loved me and I overlooked some red flags. Father issues would be the answer to what was wrong with me.

Steve Bailey said...

Wagthedad wins!!!!!!! But only cause he treated Angie like crap and she let him....

Angie said...

I gave him this round at the beginning. It was douchey of him to take a question I asked him and use it! LOL

I would say that I'm going to cut him off from sex and break up with him, but since I'm giving him neither sex or meals I am just going to glare in his general direction.

Mrs. Tuna said...

Ouch! I guess I will look back fondly on my dating years a hundred years ago when the worst thing that would happen was herpes. Ode to the Rock Bottom Inn, place of the one night stand.

Leauxra said...

So I might want to add here... The so called "nice guys" are rarely that nice... just instead of being an overt douche, they are passive agressive douchebags.

No no no, hear me out. They might have the nicest intentions, but the so-called "nice guys" that I apparently "ruined" would make me feel guilty for wanting to go to my baby sister's 18th birthday party or for going to work instead of calling in sick for a "romantic day of fun" when I was on the brink of ruin. But they wouldn't get mad, just annoyingly sulky, and then super jealous when I decided to leave them for someone less boring and weird.

Angie said...

Mrs.Tuna,
I was asked to accompany a very fine looking gentleman to his hotel room one evening and I knew I couldn't stay. No matter how tempted I was.. I couldn't stand the thought of walking out of a hotel in the middle of the night and running into anyone I might know. I am a walk of shame virgin... unless you count walking down the aisle too young. I did that once! :)

Leauxra,
Ooooh I have SO been in that relationship. It starts out all lovely and turns into, "well if you REALLY loved me". ACK

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