Me- They dance for the money.
Guy- Doesn't matter, its just a way they move that "normal" women don't.
Me- They move that way because it's how they make money. I bet they don't move that way washing dishes.
Guy- It's part of who they are. It's just how they move. It's natural.
Me- You know a lot of strippers in real life huh? Because you sure know a lot about them. Go to their houses a lot to see them do dishes, do ya? It's like when you talk about "normal" vaginal health and you don't have a vagina.
Guy- Strippers use paper plates.
Me- They still dance for money.
I had to give it to him. I couldn't even rebuttal. I would have spun it around and said, "Well sure... but what about you not having a vagina!?" but it would have just seemed like I was picking a fight and starting a new direction. Sarah was kind enough to show me how a stripper would do the dishes... not that she is one, but she did a damn fine job out there. I will say this... if you go to Sarah's house for dinner, make sure you stay to watch her wash up!
Let's talk about stripping, shall we? Listen, I don't have a problem with strippers. They do what they do and I do what I do. I have a problem if THEY are doing what I do, but that wouldn't be their fault really. I can't imagine a guy picking up a stripper when she's done with her shift and saying, "I am sure you know I'm married/taken/spoken for ..." Fairly certain on this end that if your man steps out on you with a stripper, he is the one to point the finger at.
I've read blog posts, articles, etc. that about how the stripping profession degrades women. When I was a teen I saw one of those afternoon talk shows where a Dr. was discussing how horrible this particular job is for a woman's self-esteem and how horrible an environment it must be to have men taking advantage of you all day.
WHAT?! I won't even pretend to agree with that. If she was forced into the job due to sex trafficking, fine. She gets a pass on this. However,if she went down to the Diamond Girl Gentleman's Club and slipped into her best shimmery g-string and stilettos, she is not being degraded. She could have waited tables. She could have worked the drive thru window at McDonald's. She's performing entertainment and making pretty decent money doing it, if I am to believe this "working my way through law school" stuff.
My ex husband enjoyed going to the strip club. When one of the guys got married, they would make the trip 30 minutes north and spend the evening in nudie girl Heaven. About a week after one of these trips, my best friend (just married) said to me, "I am so pissed at (husband)! Did your husband tell you about their trip to the strippers?!"
I answered in the affirmative. I didn't have a problem with him going. "Did he tell you what they DID there?" she asked. "They were touching the girls. At first (husband) said they just touched her legs, but then I told him I knew more happened, and then he admitted they touched her ass. He's too stupid to know how to lie right. Finally he admitted they touched her boobs too!".
This was a bit of a shock to me. I thought there were rules. We even went as far as to call a local club and get verification from the owner that it is in fact "dancer's discretion". I felt it only right that I should confront my husband when he returned home (from somewhere... probably a strip club). He denied it initially, then realizing his friend was "too stupid to know how to lie right", came clean.
"Strippers are like a fantasy. It's not like it's real." he said.
"It's not wrestling. It's real. And are you saying you FANTASIZE about having to pay a woman to take her clothes off for you? That's pretty pathetic. If you want to pay someone to get naked. Pay me. I will even let you pay me for sex. Leave some money on the dresser when you go to work." I replied.
I would have been completely fine with the whole situation had he had the decency to say, "I like boobs. I even like stripper boobs better than your boobs. Yes, I touched them."
Fair enough. Thanks for the talk!